Yeah, what he said!
It's just a matter of time and patience. But, it helps to decide what you want to do. Generally, raid gear is NOT PvP gear, and the reverse is somewhat true because of stacked stats, so you'll need to decide what you want to focus on before you gear up. For instance, a PvP mage wants to stack burst dmg and hit points because the name of the game is out-damage and out-last.
To give you an idea of grinding honor points, on average, if you do the BG daily and then stop PVP'ing for the night, it'll take one week per piece of gear. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Generally, it'll take 20-60 minutes to get a win. I generally try to get *at least* 1K a night, and sometimes I push for more if it's a good night and a good BG, or if people rotate in and out of the group. Once you're done the daily, you don't have to keep doing it either...you could, say, join a AB group, or a WSG group and turn in sets of tokens for more points.
Lately, I've been doing Arena, and it's NOT as bad as they say. You can loose all 10 games and still get arena points...you won't get as many, but for an hour invested time, you can't go wrong with that. And with friends, you can all ###### and complain to each other about how that lock was ALMOST dead If you decide to get in on a team, make sure they know you're new at this, and don't expect to win right away. It takes time, patience, learning a new play-style, and getting used to working with the team. One thing though, I would keep doing the BG dailies as well b/c you can gear up even quicker. Arena is perhaps the best way to go for people with limited play time, since you can get points every week with only about an hour time invested.
Raids and instances are an interesting choice as well. You can get your T4 gear fairly easy with all the guild raids and alliances we have going. And if you can't find one, then make one up If it's dungeons you're looking for, I do agree...we might want to look into a 'guild night' where there are no raids going on and people can do dailies, dungeons, quests, etc. I liked Pinecone's idea of setting up a 'dungeon raid' and allowing people to sign up for it, then randomly assigning people to dungeons just for the fun of it!
As far as the professions go, I just collect stuff as I do instances. I don't farm specific things just to level, I just hang out and eventually I'll get enough mats to make a level. No rush really, there are plenty of things to do. Don't get discouraged though, and just remember it's your $15, so if someone is making your play experience crappy, ignore them
-Mu